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Shame & Pride: Complex Emotions
A Program with the Monks of Glenstal Abbey
March 24–30, 2017
County Limerick, Ireland

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“I am not what happened to me; I am what I choose to become.”—C. G. Jung

Most of us live on a continuum between shame and pride. Jung points out that “shame is a soul-eating emotion.” Alternatively, pride can represent positive self-esteem and carry with it a constructive view of one’s self. During the course of this unique program—through presentations by Jungian analysts and the monks of Glenstal Abbey, as well as through dialogue and discussion—we will explore this complex theme together.

Join us at Glenstal Abbey and engage in stimulating discussion and dialogue with Jungian analysts Joanne Wieland-Burston, John Hill, Monika Wikman, Aryeh Maidenbaum, the erudite monks of Glenstal, and Father Gregory Collins, former Abbot of the Dormition Abbey in Jerusalem. During the course of our program, we will have the opportunity to enjoy the serene surroundings of the abbey, visit its extraordinary Icon Chapel, join the monks for a festive dinner, and have ample time to walk about the grounds.

Additionally, those interested are invited to participate in (or observe) services that include traditional Gregorian chant sung by members of Glenstal’s famous choir. Some highlights of the week will be experiencing Nóirín Ní Riain and the beauty of her voice, a special dinner with some of the Monks of the Abbey, and the opportunity to spend an afternoon at mystical Lough Gur — a magnificent Bronze Age Stone Circle — largest in Ireland. When not at the abbey, our home for the week will be the deluxe Dunraven Arms Hotel, located in the charming village of Adare.

The Setting

Glenstal Abbey, home to a unique community of monks (with many renowned scholars among them), is a Benedictine monastery on the southwest coast of Ireland. It is known for its hospitality, world-famous choir, remarkable collection of Russian Icons, and prestigious public school. The abbey sits on 350 acres, with streams, lakes, woodland paths, and an enchanting walled garden. Surrounding a castle built in the romantic Norman style, it also houses one of the most important private libraries in Ireland, with a substantial collection of antiquarian books (many dating back to the 15th century) on Irish history, Irish literature, biography, and art.


Situated in the heart of Adare, one of Ireland’s prettiest villages, the Dunraven Arms, established in 1792, is a deluxe, Old World hotel with impeccable service and authentic Irish ambiance. Its comfortable bedrooms are tastefully furnished with charming antiques. It also houses an award-winning restaurant, as well as a health and leisure center, which includes an indoor, heated pool. Surrounded by picturesque thatched cottages and within easy walking distance of shops, parks, pubs, restaurants, and historic sites, the Dunraven Arms is an ideal base for our program.

Shame & Pride: Complex Emotions

As Dr. Donald Nathanson, in his seminal book on shame and pride, has pointed out, the “very idea of shame is embarrassing to most people” and produces so much uneasiness that “we do whatever we can to avoid it.” On the other hand, positive pride in one’s self should, in Erich Neumann’s words, carry with it the affirmative feeling that “I am loved, cared for, and valued by others the way I am.”

On a collective level, shame can create havoc. For example, among other factors, the humiliating conditions imposed on Germany following World War I proved fertile ground for the grandiose nationalism that helped set the stage for a maniacal demagogue to “make Germany great again.” Alternatively, it is also natural to feel authentic pride in one’s culture and country.

We should feel pride in who we are and in what we accomplish. Feeling confident and productive in our work, helping others, and contributing what we can toward protecting the environment all enhance our self-esteem. On a personal level, it is important to feel proud of our relationships, our family, and our homes. Feeling gratified in our work and home life, feeling successful and confident: these things add up to making us feel secure and having a sense of pride.

A different kind of pride can develop when it is excessive, when arrogance is present, or when narcissism is at play. Mario Jacoby calls this the “grandiose self.” This kind of pride goes hand in hand with denial, an inability for self-reflection, and leads to fooling ourselves. In literary terms, it is called hubris. This kind of pride, to which we attach too much importance in how others see us, is an over-identification with the archetype and often ends in disappointment, sadness, and even tragedy.

As we mature, those around us—teachers, friends, partners, and even our children—contribute to our developing either pride or shame in ourselves. In this seminar, we will explore the vicissitudes of pride and shame in our culture, the collective, and in ourselves.

During the course of this unique program, through presentations by Jungian analysts and the Monks of Glenstal Abbey, and through dialogue and discussion, we will explore these complex questions together.

Program in Brief

Friday, March 24
Arrival at Dunraven Arms Hotel. Check in, with time to relax and enjoy the hotel’s amenities.
4:00 p.m. Opening remarks, Aryeh Maidenbaum; Presentation: John Hill, Enduring the Peaks and Valleys of Pride and Shame
5:30 p.m. Break for coffee and tea
6:00 p.m. Orientation and introductions
7:30 p.m. Welcoming dinner at Dunraven Arms (included)

Saturday, March 25
8:30 a.m. Depart Dunraven Arms for Glenstal Abbey
9:30 a.m. Welcome and introductory remarks by Abbot Brendan Coffey
9:45 a.m. Mark Patrick Hederman, Pride and Shame: Bipolar Sensibility—the Scylla and Charybdis of Our Lives
10:45 a.m. Break for coffee and tea
11:15 a.m. Mark Patrick Hederman (discussion and dialogue)
12:10 p.m. (optional) Mass at Glenstal’s church
12:45 p.m. Lunch at Glenstal (included)
1:45 p.m. Tour of Glenstal grounds with Anthony Keane
3:30 p.m. Monika Wikman, Transformation Between Pride and Shame: The Alchemical Hunting of the Green Lion
5:15 p.m. Depart Glenstal for our hotel in Adare

Sunday, March 26
9:00 a.m. Depart Dunraven Arms (for those participating or observing Sunday Mass with the monks of Glenstal Abbey)
10:00 a.m. Mass with the monks at Glenstal Abbey
10:15 a.m. Depart Dunraven Arms for Glenstal Abbey
11:15 a.m. Joanne Wieland-Burston, Shame and Scandal in the Family
12:45 p.m. Lunch at Glenstal (included)
2:15 p.m. Group A: Viewing the icons, Group B: Free time to visit the library or bookstore, or to relax
3:00 p.m. Tea, coffee, and light refreshments served
3:15 p.m. Group A: Free time to visit the library or meander about Glenstal’s grounds, Group B: Viewing the Icons
4:15 p.m. Colmán Ó Clabaigh, Handlyng Synne: Shame and Pride in the Middle Ages
6:00 p.m. (optional) Participate in (or observe) the service of Vespers
7:00 p.m. Festive dinner (included) with some of the monks in the Barrington Room of the Castle

Monday, March 27
Morning: Rest, enjoy the amenities of our hotel, and/or explore Adare on your own
Afternoon: (optional) Outing to the Rock of Cashel and Holy Cross Monastery

Tuesday, March 28
8:30 a.m. Depart Dunraven Arms for Glenstal Abbey
9:30 a.m. Gregory Collins, Pride: The Deadliest of Sins?
10:45 a.m. Break for coffee and tea
11:15 a.m. Gregory Collins, Pride: The Deadliest of Sins?, continued
12:10 p.m. (optional) Mass at Glenstal’s church
12:45 p.m. Lunch at Glenstal (included)
2:30 p.m. Special performance by Nóirín Ní Riain
3:45 p.m. Break for coffee and tea
4:15 p.m. Aryeh Maidenbaum, John Hill, Joanne Wieland-Burston, Monika Wikman. Discussion and dialogue
5:45 p.m. Depart Glenstal for our hotel in Adare

Wednesday, March 29
8:15 a.m. Depart Dunraven Arms for Glenstal Abbey
9:15 a.m. Simon Sleeman, Pride and Shame: The Ego’s Game
10:30 a.m. Break for coffee and tea
11:00 a.m. Closing faculty and participant discussion: reflecting together on our experience at Glenstal
12:00 p.m. (optional) Walk to Carraig an Aifrinn (Rock of the Mass), led by Nóirín Ní Riain
1:00 p.m. Depart Glenstal for Adare; afternoon free
7:45 p.m. Farewell dinner at Dunraven Arms (included)

Thursday, March 30
Departures for airports …. OR …..
10:00 a.m. For those participating in the March 31–April 7
Aging with Panache seminar, transportation will be provided to the Connemara Coast Hotel in Galway.

*Please Note: Daily schedule subject to change. Included: full breakfast daily; all breaks for coffee and tea; lunches on March 25, 26, and 28; opening and closing dinners on March 24 and 29, and dinner with the Monks on March 26.


Rock of Cashel

Optional Monday Afternoon Outing
Brother Colmán Ó Clabaigh will lead an afternoon field trip to two of the most evocative and significant pilgrimage sites of medieval Ireland: the Rock of Cashel (intimately associated with Saint Patrick, ancient seat of the kings of Muenster and royal fortress, with spectacular views for miles around) and the Holy Cross Abbey, a twelfth-century Cistercian monastery widely regarded as one of the most beautiful buildings in all of Ireland.


Earl Collins, PhD, abbot of the Dormition Abbey in Jerusalem, 2011–2016, studied philosophy and holds a doctorate in Byzantine mystical theology. A former monk of Glenstal Abbey, he studied at the Jung Institute in Zurich and was a professor of theology at the Benedictine University in Rome. Author of The Glenstal Book of Icons and Meeting Christ in His Mysteries, Dr. Collins is interested in the history of spirituality—particularly, the phenomenon of mysticism in Christianity and world religions.


Mark Patrick Hederman, former abbot of Glenstal Abbey, has been a monk of Glenstal Abbey for over 40 years. Founding editor of The Crane Bag Journal of Irish Studies, he spent the first years of the new century wandering in search of the Holy Spirit, allowing inspiration and coincidence to lead him. Among his many publications are Walkabout: Life as Holy Spirit; Kissing the Dark: Connecting with the Unconscious; Underground Cathedrals; Dancing with Dinosaurs; and, his most recent, The Opal and the Pearl.


John Hill, MA, earned a diploma in analytical psychology from the Jung Institute of Zurich, where he served for many years as training analyst, and degrees in philosophy from the University of Dublin and Catholic University. He has a private practice in Zurich and is a training analyst at ISAP-Zurich. Born and raised in Ireland and a graduate of the Glenstal Abbey School, he has published, among others works, “Celtic Myth,” “Dreams,” “Christian Mysticism,” and At Home in the World: Sounds and Symmetries of Belonging.


Anthony Keane joined the Abbey of Glenstal in 1965 to teach in the Abbey school, one of Ireland’s leading secondary schools for boys. Father Keane studied archaeology and Irish in Dublin and theology in Rome, following which he embarked on pilgrimage for a year in India before returning home to tend the forest in Glenstal and serve as the monastery’s forester. Situated on several hundred acres, Glenstal’s forest contains some of the oldest and most magnificent trees in Ireland.


Aryeh Maidenbaum, PhD, Director of the New York Center for Jungian Studies, is a Jungian analyst in private practice in New York City. Among his publications are the articles “The Search for Spirit in Jungian Psychology,” “Sounds of Silence,” and “Psychological Types, Job Change, and Personal Growth,” and the collection of essays Jung and the Shadow of Anti-Semitism. Moderator of an important conference on aging at the Library of Congress, Dr. Maidenbaum was also a faculty member at NYU for 18 years where he taught courses in Jungian psychology, and was a contributing author of Current Theories of Psychoanalysis.


Nóirín Ní Riain, PhD, an acclaimed spiritual singer, has introduced the Dalai Lama at official occasions in Ireland and elsewhere. A theologian, musicologist, and recording artist who was awarded the first doctorate in theology from the University of Limerick, she has written several books, including Listen with the Ear of the Heart: An Autobiography; and Theosony: Towards a Theology of Listening. Dr. Ní Riain was ordained a minister in 2017 with One Spirit Interfaith Seminary in London.


Colmán Ó Clabaigh is a monk of Glenstal Abbey and a medievalist specializing in the history of Irish monasticism. He is the author of many books and articles, including his monograph The Friars in Ireland, 1224–1540, which was awarded the 2013 Prize for Irish Historical Research by the National University of Ireland. Brother Ó Clabaigh’s current research focuses on the impact of religion on the human life cycle in medieval Ireland.


Father Simon Sleeman, MA, earned a BA in psychology and philosophy at University College, Dublin, and MAs in theology and organizational development. Ordained in 1991, Father Simon was born in Berlin and educated at the Glenstal Abbey School. Headmaster of Glenstal’s Secondary School from 1991 to 1998 and bursar of Glenstal Abbey from 2000 to the present, he notes that “providential encounters with psychotherapy, poetry, and alternative philosophies have helped me to forge another understanding of life.”


Joanne Wieland Burston, PhD, is a Jungian analyst in private practice in Munich, Germany. A graduate of the Jung Institute in Zurich, Dr. Wieland teaches at the International Seminar for Analytical Psychology in Zurich, and the Jung Institute in Munich. Dr. Wieland has lectured internationally, and is the author of articles on many subjects, including the psychological importance of grandparents. Her books, Chaos and Order in the World of the Psyche and Contemporary Solitude: The Joy and Pain of Being Alone, have been translated into many languages.


Monika Wikman, PhD, is a Jungian analyst and astrologer. Author of Pregnant Darkness: Alchemy and the Rebirth of Consciousness, she has contributed articles, and poems to numerous publications. A graduate of the Jung–von Franz Center for Depth Psychology in Zurich, Dr. Wikman was a dream researcher at UCSD Medical Center on “Dreams of the Dying.” She has a private practice in Tesuque, New Mexico, and in Gaviota, California. Along with her partner, Tom Elsner, she hosts a nonprofit project under, the Center for Alchemical Studies.